From: owner-lds-yw-digest@lists.xmission.com (lds-yw-digest) To: lds-yw-digest@lists.xmission.com Subject: lds-yw-digest V1 #58 Reply-To: lds-yw-digest Sender: owner-lds-yw-digest@lists.xmission.com Errors-To: owner-lds-yw-digest@lists.xmission.com Precedence: bulk lds-yw-digest Friday, May 22 1998 Volume 01 : Number 058 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Thu, 21 May 1998 19:55:38 -0700 From: jeanius1@juno.com Subject: (lds-yw) Negative Beehive I have to agree with Jennifer when she says that they ignored the negativity. We have the same problem in our ward -- and she's MY daughter!!! Our family has always been intact, so that is not the problem. You might have to take a different approach with that situation. We have a rule at my house...we spell out I-G-N-O-R-E to the older children so that they understand that they are to IGNORE the unacceptable behavior of the younger children(who can't spell yet). I have shared this with my YW board to use with my daughter. We simply IGNORE the negativity and pay extra attention to her when she is cooperative. This is a YW who when she first entered YW would sit in a corner all by herself and repeat (at ever-increasing volume) how stupid the YW program was, and how goody-goody these girls were who actually PARTICIPATED (gasp!). In the last three months, my daughter has been caught doing her personal progress, participating in activities, and LAUGHING!!! I have to say, though, that when the YW would try to coddle her and get her to participate, it just inflamed the situation. There she was getting her attention by being negative. I have just had to lovingly tell them to ignore her. It sounds harsh, but I think they got the idea of what I was trying to accomplish, and it has worked! I think the key, though, is to give them PLENTY of attention when they are cooperative and speaking positively. I love this list and appreciate all of the ideas I steal from you all! Jeanne Rosamond, CA jeanius1@juno.com (Hi, Pat!) _____________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Thu, 21 May 1998 20:39:57 -0700 From: edbowman1@juno.com (Elaine D. Bowman) Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Respect Sorry Misty if I gave you and others the wrong idea. When I said in my letter "From a convert's point of view" it was meant to be singular and referring to my own personal experience.. I have seen many wonderful converts such as yourself grasp onto the gospel immediately and not struggle as I have. I was a definitely a "hard study" and my conversion was not overnight. I actually was quite "anti" and belligerent - it has been nothing short of a miracle that I became converted! But the process was a long, hard road for me and even after my baptism, I still struggled with learning and accepting standards and doctrine. I also had to deal with family members who were very upset and against the Church - including my Nazarene preacher grandfather who wondered how I could ever do this to the family. For a person such as myself, who values family above most anything else, it was very heartbreaking for me. I still am in 2 different worlds and my children are exposed to quite different standards on both sides of the family. Maybe that has made me too tolerant, but I do love my family and I have taught my children to respect my relatives and look for the good in them, and the good that they do even if their standards are different than ours. Yes, my children have been exposed to seeing adults who live together, smoke, drink, etc. but they have also learned to look beyond the exterior and look into the heart. Sadly, my children have seen first-hand the destruction that smoking and drinking causes, as I keep losing family members to these terrible addictions. It has not been easy to teach them to "hate the sin and love the sinner" but I will keep working at it. Fortunately, my immediate family has the same Word of Wisdom standards as we do, and are faithful members of their churches, so they are very supportive and helpful in being a great example in many ways. I have always envied those converts such as you Misty who seem to adjust quickly to the gospel. It's surely has to be much easier than how I did it. I wish I could have started out with a much stronger testimony, but I am grateful for the progress I have made. I cannot imagine my life without the church now. It is so much a part of me, I cannot think of living any other way. I'm sorry to take up more of your space but I felt so strongly about clearing up any misconceptions someone might have. I would never want to assume all converts are like me or all life-long members are the same either. I just wanted to give my point of view, showing that we all come from different places, we are all at different points and we need to help each other. Love to ALL of you sisters, especially to Misty- Elaine _____________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 00:38:30 EDT From: SPrice9OOO Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Negative Beehive In a message dated 98-05-21 23:00:37 EDT, you write: << IGNORE the negativity >> Thanks for the insight.... As I think about our young women, we have a couple who could benefit from ignoring the negatives... in fact I think a couple actually THRIVE on the attention they get by acting mad, throwing a tantrum, disappearing, pouting, etc... one hurdle we have there is CONVINCING the other girls to ignore it. THis one girl really has a lot of power & the other girls just FLIP out if they think the one is mad at them. She pretty much has them wrapped around her little finger! and I think you are right, attention just encourages it more! As for our one little miserable girl... I'll have to think about that one. SHe seems truly unhappy & not just playing a game for attention. But I'm sure she does get attention & noticed for her behavior. Maybe in a large family of everyone coming & going, that is her only way to stand out. Gives me something to think about! Stacey - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 00:42:46 EDT From: LDMcEwen Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Sis Nadauld address I called the 800 number once and they would rather you write. Pam - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 00:46:41 EDT From: SPrice9OOO Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Song --Turn Your Heart to Home Bishop/Daddy --- In a message dated 98-05-21 21:07:37 EDT, you write: << But, If they can or will admit it is their problem, they can then decide to forgive the person and move on with their life, but until their is forgiveness, they cannot move on. >> No... you are not rambling. Your thoughts are helpful & I appreciate them. Tell me... were you ever able to HELP someone get to the point where they could take responsibility for their own lives & their own happiness? Or is it something that only they can decide? Do those questions make sense??? I guess I'm wondering.... if someone is not to that point yet of not blaming others... is there something someone else (me) can do to help them get to that point??? Or will they just get there in their own good time? Thanks for sharing your years of experience! Stacey - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Thu, 21 May 1998 21:29:37 -0800 From: "Dan Rostrom" Subject: [none] This is a multi-part message in MIME format. - ------=_NextPart_000_0012_01BD84FF.8EA5CF40 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable We have two sisters in our yw who are very hard. Even when they were = little girls in primary they were the "ones" disturbing everyone. I = think they really want so badly to be good and happy. Their parents = divorced a few years ago and of course it's gotten worse for everyone. = They drain everyone around them because they're so needy so wanting to = be loved. I think sometimes you push people away when you're that needy = getting the oppisite effect that you really desire. Anyway...I am the = MiaMaid advisor the older sister is in my class, she seems to be doing = better in the last couple months. She has been accepted by her = non-member youth group because they have a gospel singing group, but she = really is trying to come be with us more, though the music she always = wants to choose to sing is obviously the influence of a differnt = religion and she has taken to wearing a 3inch cross around her neck. = She's struggling but trying. Then her beehive sister a month ago took = an over dose of tylenol because she was mad at her mom for telling her = to feed the cat. She came out of her room and said "Mom, You'd better = take me to the hospital I just ate a whole bottle of pills." So she did = and she had her stomach pumped, and it's all so scary and exhausting at = the same time. It's such a game and such a cry for help. Anyway, = She's down south living with her father now, (the grass is always = greener). Sorry I rambled on so much. There is a girl who won't = participate in any activity. Her moms the Beehive advisor and she's in = my class. I just let her do her thing. If she wants to sit there and = do homework...What ever, She's a moody 15 year old but I know she has = her head screwed on right. It's those who don't who I really worry = about. Kay - ------=_NextPart_000_0012_01BD84FF.8EA5CF40 Content-Type: text/html; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable
We have two sisters = in our yw=20 who are very hard.  Even when they were little girls in primary = they were=20 the "ones" disturbing everyone.  I think they really want = so=20 badly to be good and happy.  Their parents divorced a few years ago = and of=20 course it's gotten worse for everyone.  They drain everyone around = them=20 because they're so needy so wanting to be loved.  I think sometimes = you=20 push people away when you're that needy getting the oppisite effect that = you=20 really desire.  Anyway...I am the MiaMaid advisor the older sister = is in my=20 class,  she seems to be doing better in the last couple = months.  She=20 has been accepted by her non-member youth group because they have a = gospel=20 singing group, but she really is trying to come be with us more, though = the=20 music she always wants to choose to sing is obviously the influence of a = differnt religion and she has taken to wearing a 3inch cross around her=20 neck.  She's struggling but trying.  Then her beehive sister a = month=20 ago took an over dose of tylenol because she was mad at her mom for = telling her=20 to feed the cat.  She came out of her room and said "Mom, = You'd better=20 take me to the hospital I just ate a whole bottle of pills."  = So she=20 did and she had her stomach pumped, and it's all so scary and exhausting = at the=20 same time.  It's such a game and such a cry for help.  = Anyway, =20 She's down south living with her father now, (the grass is always=20 greener).  Sorry I rambled on so much.  There is a girl who = won't=20 participate in any activity.  Her moms the Beehive advisor and = she's in my=20 class.  I just let her do her thing.  If she wants to sit = there and do=20 homework...What ever, She's a moody 15 year old but I know she has her = head=20 screwed on right.  It's those who don't who I really worry=20 about.   Kay
- ------=_NextPart_000_0012_01BD84FF.8EA5CF40-- - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Thu, 21 May 1998 22:39:53 PDT From: "Delia Reynolds" Subject: (lds-yw) The Bucket & Dipper Parable, Sister Style THE BUCKET & DIPPER PARABLE, SISTER-STYLE Once upon a time it was discovered that everyone has a bucket. No kidding. It's a bucket, which is kind of like a cup, in that it can be filled…even to overflowing. I guess it's sort of like a source of peace, comfort, love, strength, and such. And the fuller it is, the easier it is to share what's in the bucket with others. There are a lot of wonderful ways in which we can put things in each others' buckets. For example, we can say "good morning!" When we see each other. That's a great way to put something in someone else's bucket. And you can double the contribution by adding someone's name "Good morning, Sister Edmunds!" That's even better, because you've added a person's name. Other things which can fill up a bucket are hugs, listening, sincere praise, pointing out strengths, being sensitive to needs (and doing something about them when you can), cheerfulness, honesty, patience (almost sounds like a description of THE PURE LOVE OF CHRIST: CHARITY, when you think about it). Anyway, one of the things we all ought to spend time doing as missionaries, and forever, is helping to fill others' buckets. Now…it must needs be, so they say, that there is opposition in all things. And so, just as we all have a bucket, we all have a dipper. Yup. And sometimes, other people can get their dipper in your bucket!! It's been known to happen! Just imagine that we're going out to eat with some investigators. Nice tablecloth and all- first class. Silverware is nice, place is lovely, I've just had a bath, and I'm feeling good. I am sitting at the table, visiting…and I accidentally knock over my glass of V-8 juice. Big red spot. I am so embarrassed. I am turning redder than I'm usually red. But the juice just keeps crawling across the table right toward the lady who invited us…it's like a flood…It won't stop!…And then finally it does it: it dribbles on her! She jumps a little, but is being nice even though it's wet and gooey. And THEN my companion, old "bright eyes" down the table a little, looks up and says, "You spilt your juice." SHE GOT HER DIPPER IN MY BUCKET! Tell me how old you have to be to know you made a mistake! That you're not yet perfect! Can you ever remember sitting down to breakfast with your family and your little brother spilled milk? And about 35 people (it seemed) said, "You spilled your milk!" All those great big dippers in that little tiny bucket… Have you ever noticed that when your bucket is low, or empty-when you need most to have someone put something in it-that is when you're most irritable to people? We chase people away when we need them most. We try hard to figure out WHY we run around with our dippers out. We're busy try to get our dippers in other peoples buckets-and they don't want their bucket to have our dipper in it! This is where the trap is. Have you ever noticed that when you get your dipper in somebody's bucket… you're pointing out something WRONG with them? You tell your companion she's got wrinkles in her socks…and she hasn't got 'em on yet. You tell her she's moody and then you find out she's got a toothache or got a sad letter. You tell someone there's a spot on their face and find out your glasses are dirty. YOU'VE GOT YOUR DIPPER IN SOMEONE ELSE'S BUCKET! It might feel good, sort of, when you first shove your dipper into someone's bucket-but after a while it doesn't feel good anymore. Do you know what a DIP-IN is? It's not exactly like a drive-in or sit-in…it's when several people get together and just dip someone good! Next time you realize that's happening, point it out-stop it! "Hey, we've all got our dippers in this sister's bucket! Let's fill it instead of emptying it!" Sometimes you say to yourself, "Self, she's got a LID on her bucket!" Or you may ask, "Hey, does anyone know where I can buy a lid for my bucket? There are a lot of DIPS around this place!" Some of you may even think you don't HAVE a bucket! Or you may feel that your bucket'' been shot full of holes. Well, for SURE we're not the same when our bucket is empty, and that's all there is to it. And: we're not the same when we're dipping instead of filling, and that's all there is to that, too! My friends, keep your dipper out of others' buckets. FILL their buckets…you'll discover yours is getting fuller too. Full and overflowing-you'll have so much, much more to share. It really CAN be that way. LOVE ONE ANOTHER. ENRICH AND LIFT AND BLESS AND FILL ONE ANOTHER. ______________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 02:08:19 -0400 (EDT) From: Denise Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Re:pants in church, is it really that important? I have to tell you.. that 26 years ago, I didn't own a dress to wear to church, when I was investigating. I had no "intention" of joining the church, and I just came, because the missionaries were nice and invited us and I had a sister-in-law interested in the church. . If anything, I was a bit rebellious and was going to prove everyone wrong. I would like to think I would have made it past a remark about my pants, but I doubt if I would have. 26 years later I am the Early Morning Seminary teacher going on my 9th year, and I have 8 kids, one on a mission to Albania, and my husband has served in various Bishoprics and stake High Councils. Thank goodness for the kindness and EXAMPLE of others. That's all it really takes, is .. example.. People usually "get it".. and if they don't.. Who are we to judge? Denise At 12:00 AM 5/21/98 EDT, you wrote: >In a message dated 5/20/98 3:51:10 PM Eastern Daylight Time, >serryp@burgoyne.com writes: > ><< Whoa! I know our Stake President is REALLY strict about no pants at all. >I > have actually not seen anybody in them since I have been a member of the > church (19 years now). One sister even asked if she could wear pants to an > LDS funeral and the stake presidency told me to tell her a dress would be > more appropriate! Knowing our stake presidency, if someone came in pants > because they had no dresses, they would more than likely look for those who > would be willing to donate money to buy or make dresses for the girl or >sister. > >> >This rather amazes me. I know we encourage people to dress their nicest for >church, >but to make them feel they are unwelcome if they wear pants???? What if >someone just plain wants to wear pants, even if they have a dress or two. Is >this not their right?? We have some converts coming who would be extremely >offended if we told them they had better wear pants to church. Oh, they know >the standard, it is rather clear when all else are wearing dresses. But >sometimes they are coming from work or on their way there, (Yes, on Sunday,) >and that is what they need to do. The fact that they are coming at all is >paramount. > One of our Leaders pointed out that in S America on his mission, a couple >came to Church whom the missionaries could see across the room were so nicely >dressed, it would add tremendously to this poor branch to have them convert. >Before the Elders could make their way over to talk to the couple, they >left... all because the wife was dressed in a nice pants suit and someone in >the Branch told her she needed to be in a dress to come into the chapel. They >never came back. I honestly think that what is in one's heart is so much >more important. rr > >- > To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" > with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. > For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send > "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. > > - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 07:16:17 EDT From: dmeledie@juno.com (Meledie Knopf) Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Sis Nadauld address The 800 number is 1-800-453-3860. This is Church Headquarters' switchboard which can direct your call to any office. :) Meledie in Arlington, WA - ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ On Thu, 21 May 1998 17:24:26 -0700 Brandon & Shiela Lee writes: >I send the names and addresses of the YWhood Rec award to: > >General Young Women President >Sister Nadauld >50 East North Temple Street >Salt Lake City UTAH 84150 >USA > >My letter says nothing more than "This yw has received her YWR award. >I >appreciate your taking the time to recognize her accomplishment." > >I have heard through the grape vine that there is an 800 phone number >that you can call also, but I don't know what it is. If anyone else >has >info on this subject please post it. >Thanks >Shiela >mailto:brashie@ior.com > > >- > To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" > with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. > For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send > "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. > _____________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 07:16:17 EDT From: dmeledie@juno.com (Meledie Knopf) Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Some thoughts on music I, too, love music! A lot is taught by music (think about your ABC's, etc.). Song of the Morning Stars, This is Jesus, and Come to the House of The Lord are more WONDERFUL CDs/tapes to look into and I could go on. Also, a wonderful book entitled, "Making the Music Decision" by Jack R. Christianson is very inspiring and well worth your time and money. It's written for the youth as well as the "older" folks. Brother Christianson makes some very poignant observations about music, how it's used for both good and evil. For example, think about ANY movie you've seen lately...didn't it have music interlaced throughout the show? It's very interesting to note that when you're completely unaware of the affects...the moods, the pending excitement, the upcoming thriller (think about the movie "JAWS" and the shark attack) how the music sets the stage! It's amazing!!! He also talks about the affects music has on our lives... it's message and the feeling we get when we listen to certain types of music...is it a good, clean and Christ-like feeling or....? Even your stores pipe different kinds of music in to try and entice you to buy more and even things you wouldn't normally buy. It's bizarre!!! This book is really a great guide for the youth/adult offering sound (sorry...no pun intended) advise and leaves you with a lot to think about! :) Meledie in Arlington, WA _____________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 07:38:44 -0500 From: cbkcmo@cysource.com (Conrad Blake) Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Negative Beehive Hi! Another insight.... I have seen it in my own life and found that sometimes people act the worse (especially when they know they are doing wrong) to see if people will love them. They don't do this on purpose, it is something that just happens. I know when I know I've disappointed someone, I don't feel so good. I get frustrated and especially if you live with people that are critical (large families are full of critical people), you just want to make sure someone loves you "no matter what". Love can conquer ALL. I know. Lorrie in KC,MO - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 07:51:10 -0500 From: cbkcmo@cysource.com (Conrad Blake) Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Song --Turn Your Heart to Home >I guess I'm wondering.... if someone is not to that point yet of not blaming others... is there something someone else (me) can do to help them get to that point??? Or will they just get there in their own good time? >Stacey Stacey, You may never see or know the seeds you plant in that girl's life. The scriptures tell us to be long-suffering. I know with people who I have associated with (especially after I have moved out of Utah), whom I never know if what I'm doing will actually help the people I'm working with. Sometimes, I still don't know if it's all worth it. But I have feelings inside that every little bit helps. And that Heavenly Father is pleased with my small efforts. I also feel that we need to endure to the end, even though it seems fruitless. You just NEVER know what will happen down the road and how much influence your words made way back when (when you didn't feel you were making any progress.). Hope this helps. Keep on trying!!! Remember you always have Heavenly Father on your side (with all His chariots and warriors on the other side) because that girl or boy or whomever we're all working with is also Heavenly Father's child and He wants to do everything in HIS power to get them back too. You're never alone. Lorrie in KC,MO - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Thu, 21 May 1998 21:41:53 -0500 From: families--are--forever@juno.com (Sheryl L. Jones) Subject: Re: (lds-yw) If Jesus Came Today I think in the activities committee handbook it states that a driver for any youth activity must be 21. _____________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 08:05:44 -0500 From: Ken and Michelle Duker Subject: (lds-yw) Negative girls - ------ =_NextPart_000_01BD8558.935FFE80 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable Stacey, and others laboring with negative youth, I think that the advice to try to ignore the negativity and really = praise any positive response has a lot of value. This has really proven = to work in my own family of normal misbehavior and I think it is a good = principle, but will really take time. =20 Stacey, I think that you yourself cannot really bring about the change = you are talking about all by yourself, but you can certainly start the = process! I was a miserable teenager, with serious family problems, very = negative, attempted suicide, alcohol abuse, health problems-I certainly = didn't have much going for me! I had quite an attitude and was not easy = to approach. The spring of my junior year, my English teacher ( I still = remember her name-thanks, Dottie McCrossen, if you are out there = anywhere) came and sat next to me. She said she noticed I was really = down, asked if I could tell her about it, could she help. I couldn't = tell her-I just looked at her. She hugged me, said I could call her = anytime, and she was really pulling for me because she thought I was = bright and talented (ME?!!!) and if I just hung in there, things would = eventually get better. I mumbled something on my way out the door, and = I'm sure she thought she didnt help at all. I hardly changed overnight! = But sometimes, when I got really down, I would remember-Mrs. Mcrossen = noticed, she cared, she thinks I'm bright! And slowly, that tiny seed = grew and grew. When I later discovered the sunshine of the restored = gospel, it positively blossomed!=09 So, please do try the positive reinforcement, and most of all, don't = push too hard, but just be there! Sooner or later, real love will make = a difference, even if it is just from a teacher. Just some thoughts! 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For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 09:18:56 EDT From: Sheamoo Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Standards of Personal Worthiness We plan a lesson every year on the Standards of Personal Worthiness. We do it with all of the young women combined. It is a challenge to present it in an new and interesting way, but it has been a successful lesson. Sherry in Santa Rosa - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 08:11:38 -0600 From: "M. Baker" Subject: RE: (lds-yw) Young Man W/O respect This would be a good idea if he had a responsible parent, but obviously his mother is not or she would not let him drive w/o a license. Gee! I'd give this one to the bishop. The priesthood ought to handle it. Marianne in Rock Springs - -----Original Message----- From: owner-lds-yw@lists.xmission.com [mailto:owner-lds-yw@lists.xmission.com] On Behalf Of Jhenrick Sent: Thursday, May 21, 1998 2:12 PM To: lds-yw@lists.xmission.com Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Young Man W/O respect If he continues this behavior again. Let him know one of his parents will be notified. Not just because this at church but most importantly he is putting to many lives a stake. If this were a store parking lot the police would surely be called in. just a thought. Julie - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Fri, 22 May 1998 09:30:50 -0500 From: Ken and Michelle Duker Subject: (lds-yw) Misty in Hollister - ------ =_NextPart_000_01BD8564.53067D80 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable Wow! You are a great example to all of us and also a great example of = the miracles the gospel and hard work can do! A thousand sincere = congratulations on your very successful completion of nursing school. I = really mean it-I enrolled in nursing school once but biochemistry did me = in-I transferred to the liberal arts division! And that was when I was = just a student, with no family or other responsibilities! 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