From: owner-lds-yw-digest@lists.xmission.com (lds-yw-digest) To: lds-yw-digest@lists.xmission.com Subject: lds-yw-digest V1 #79 Reply-To: lds-yw-digest Sender: owner-lds-yw-digest@lists.xmission.com Errors-To: owner-lds-yw-digest@lists.xmission.com Precedence: bulk lds-yw-digest Wednesday, May 27 1998 Volume 01 : Number 079 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 14:50:36 EDT From: Subject: (lds-yw) Good Works (My Files 1 0f 6) GOOD WORKS Just a humble loaf of bread, But 'twas once a bowl of paste, Which, if I left in that condition Would have surely gone to waste. But, when kneaded, it was changed Into something good to eat. By some kind and loving hands And an interval of heat. We, like that loaf of bread, Must be "needed" to become What the Lord desires of us Ere we return back home. But we cannot "Need ourselves" We must all serve one another With kind and loving hands, Just like our elder Brother, So that when we are subjected To that interval of heat, We'll be like the loaf of bread; Warm and smooth, and smelling sweet. PARABLE OF POPCORN Behold at the time of harvest, the ears of corn did bring forth kernals which were dried and prepared for the Popper's hand. And then it was that the Popper did take the kernals, all that did appear alike unto Him, and applied the oil and the heat. And it came to pass that when the heat was on, some did explode with promise and did magnify themselves an hundred fold. And some did burst forth with whiteness which did both gladden the eye and satisfy the taste of the Popper. And likewise some did pop, but not too much. Behold, there were some that did lie there, and even though the Popper's heat was alike unto all, some did just bask in the oil and keep everything that they had unto themselves. And so it came to pass that those which had given of themselves did bring forth much joy and delight to many munchers. But those which kept of the warmth and did not bring forth were only cast into the pail and thought of with hardness and disgust. And thus we see that in the beginning all appear alike, but when the heat is on, some come forth and give all, while others fail their purpose and become as chaff, so as to be discarded and forgotten. Uncle Elias By President Monson- Seemingly little lessons of love are learned by children as they silently observe the examples of their parents. My own father, a printer, worked long and hard practically every day of his life. I'm certain that on the Sabbath he would have enjoyed just being at home. Rather, he visited elderly family members and brought cheer into their lives. One such family member was his uncle, who was crippled by arthritis so severe that he could not walk or care for himself. On a sunday afternoon dad would say to me, "Come along, Tommy. Let's take Uncle Elias for a short drive." Boarding the old 1928 Oldsmobile, we would proceed to Eighth West, where, at the home of my uncle, I would wait in the caar while dad went inside. Soon he would emerge from the house, carrying in his arms like a china doll his frail and crippled uncle. I would then open the door and watch how tenderly and with such affection my father would place Uncle Elias in the front seat so that he would have a fine view while I occupied the rear seat. The drive was brief and the conversation limited, but oh, what a legacy of love! Father never read to me from the Bible about the good Samaritan. Rather, he took me with him and Uncle Elias in that old 1928 Oldsmobile and provided a living example I have always remembered. - -------------------- Sunflowers Sunflowers always face the sun. In the morning, they face east. By evening, they have turned west. They follow the sun as it crosses each day?s sky, so they can gather in as much sun as possible. We can be like sunflowers, and turn to the SON, Jesus Christ, and gather spiritual light from him. A sunflower's seed will grow almost anywhere. You, too, can bloom and grow where you are planted. By desiring to believe and by studying the scriptures prayerfully, you will nurture your personal gospel seed. As the sunflower grows, small birds soon appear, surround by protecting leaves. Like those leaves, your parents, Young Women leaders, and teachers surround you, and love you, and protect you, and help your budding testimony grow. As a sunflower grows taller, its stalk grows thicker, for it must support the large flower that will soon be full of seeds. So your spiritual stalk must grow, and your testimony will grow stronger as you prayerfully read the scriptures that teach of Jesus Christ and strive to become like him. When the sunflower bud opens, bright yellow petals form, and its head becomes a golden crown. The blessings of its growth at last begin to show. And, having been born of a seed, it now produces seeds of its own that nourish people, animals and birds. Your testimony will likewise produce its own new seeds, and you will nourish family, friends and others who will see the Son reflected, like a golden crown, in you, for you have become like Him. So turn to the Son. Open your heart to His light. Seek it first thing each morning. Follow its warmth across each day?s sky, and let its comfort be the last thing you feel each night. Then, when the evening of your life?s last setting comes, you will arise to a glorious new morning and turn again to Him and he will see His image in your countenance. We decorated everything with sunflowers. We also had a skit from a children?s book - I think it?s called the Nest is Best. We tied it in with the 1998 YW theme, Turning the Hearts to the Family. June (SLC) As a man walked a desolate beach one cold, gray morning he began to see another figure, far in the distance. Slowly the two approached each other, and he could make out a local native who kept leaning down, picking something up and throwing it out into the water. Time and again he hurled things into the ocean. As the distance between them continued to narrow, the man could see that the native was picking up starfish that had been washed upon the beach and, one at a time, was throwing them back into the water. Puzzled, the man approached the native and asked what he was doing. "I'm throwing these starfish back into the ocean. You see, it's low tide right now and all of these starfish have been washed up onto the shore. If I don't throw them back into the sea, they'll die up here from lack of oxygen." "But there must be thousands of starfish on this beach," the man replied. "You can't possibly get to all of them. There are just too many. And this same thing is probably happening on hundreds of beaches all up and down this coast. Can't you see that you can't possibly make a difference?" The local native smiled, bent down and picked up another starfish, and as he threw it back into the sea he replied, "Made a difference to that one!" Each of us is but one person: limited, burdened with our own cares and responsibilities. We may feel there is so much to be done, and we have so little to give. We're usually short of everything, especially time and money. When we leave this shore, there will still be millions of starfish stranded on the beach. Maybe we can't change the whole world, but there isn't one of us who can't help change one person's whole world. One at a time. We can make a difference. This is Today... · Author Unknown Today is here. I will start with a smile, and resolve to be agreeable. I will not criticize. I refuse to waste my valuable time. Today has one thing in which I am equal with other...time. All of us draw the same salary in seconds, minutes, hours... Today I will not waste my time, because the minutes I wasted yesterday are as lost as a vanished thought. Today I refuse to spend my time worrying about what might happen. I am going to spend my time making things happen. Today I am determined to do everything I should do. I am firmly determined to stop doing things I should not do. Today I will begin by doing, and not wasting my time. In one week I will be miles beyond the person I am today. Today I will stop saying, "If I had time," for I will never "find time" for anything-if I want it I must make it. Today I will act toward other people as though this might be my last day on earth. I will not wait for tomorrow. TOMORROW NEVER COMES. Ten Ways to Worry Less and Accomplish More · Author Unknown 1. Don't think of problems as difficulties. Think of them as opportunities for action. 2. After you've done your best to deal with a situation, avoid speculating about the outcome. Forget it and go onto the next thing.. 3. Keep busy. Keep the 24 hours of your day filled with these three ingredients: work, recreation, sleep. Don't allow yourself time for abstract thinking. 4. Don't concern yourself with things you can't do anything about. Armchair generals don't win battles, but they do have nervous breakdowns. 5. For the time being anyway, eliminate daydreaming completely. Stop building air castles. 6. Don't procrastinate. Putting off an unpleasant task until tomorrow simply gives you more time for your imagination to make a mountain out a possible molehill. More time for anxiety to sap your self-confidence. Do it now, brother, do it now. 7. Don't pour woes and anxieties to other people. You don't want their sympathy...it'll merely make it easy for you to feel sorrier for yourself. 8. Get up as soon as you wake up. If you lie in bed, you may use up as much nervous energy living your day in advance as you would in actual accomplishment of the day's work. 9. Try to arrange your schedule so that you will not have to hurry. Hurry, a blood brother to worry, helps shatter poise and self-confidence, and contributes to fear and anxiety. 10. If a project seems too big, break it up into simple steps of action. Then negotiate those steps-link rungs in a ladder...one at a time. And don't allow yourself to think about the difficulties of step number two until you've executed step number one. What were you worried about this time last year? Can't remember?? Good! Spread a little happiness!!! Jake Bill Andrews was a big, awkward, homely guy. He dressed oddly with ill fitting cloths. There were several fellows who thought it smart to make fun of him. One day one fellow noticed a small tear in his shirt and gave it a small rip. Another worker in the factory added his bit, and before long there was quite a ribbon dangling. Bill went on about his work and as he passed too near a moving belt the shirt strip was sucked into the machinery. In a split second the sleeve and Bill were in trouble. Alarms were sounded, switches pulled, and trouble was avoided. The foreman, however, aware of what had happened, summoned the men and related this story: "In my younger days I worked in a small factory. That's where I first met Mike Havoc. He was big and witty, was always making jokes, playing little pranks. Mike was a leader. Then there was Pete Lumas. He always went along with Mike. He was a follower. And then I remember Jake. He was a little older than the rest of us -- quiet, harmless, apart. He ate his lunch by himself. He wore the same patched trousers for three years straight. He never entered into the games we played at noon, wrestling, horse shoe and such. He was indifferent. "Jake was a natural target for practical jokes. He might find a live frog in his dinner pail, or a dead rodent in his hat. But he always took it in good humor. "Then one fall when things were slack, Mike took off a few days to go hunting. Pete went along, of cours. And they promised all of us that if they got anything they'd bring us each a piece. So we were all quite excited when we heard that they'd returned and that Mike had got a really nice big buck. We heard more than that. Pete could never keep anything to himself, and it leaked out that they had a real whopper to play on Jake. Mike had cut up the critter and had made a nice package for each of us. And, for the laugh, for the joke of it, he had saved the ears, the tail, the hoofs -- it would be so funny when Jake unwrapped them. "Mike distributed his packages during the noon hour. We each got a nice piece, opened it, and thanked him. The biggest package of all he saved until last. It was for Jake. Pete was all but bursting; and Mike looked very smug. Like always, Jake sat by himself; he was on the far side of the big table. Mike pushed the package over to where he could reach it; and we all sat and waited. Jake was never one to say much. You might never know that he was around for all the talking he did. In three years he'd never said a hundred words. So we were all quite hypnotized with what happened next. "He took the package firmly in his grip and rose slowly to his feet. He smiled broadly at Mike -- and it was then we noticed that his eyes were glistening. His adam's apple bobbed up and down for a moment and then he got control of himself. "I knew you wouldn't forget me," he said gratefully; "I knew you'd come through! You're big and you're playful, but I knew all along that you had a good heart." He swallowed again, and then took in the rest of us. "I know I haven't seemed too chummy with you men; but I never meant to be rude. You see, I've got nine kids at home -- and a wife that's been an invalid - -- bedfast now for four years. She ain't ever going to get any better. And sometimes when she's real bad off, I have to sit up all night to take care of her. And most of my wages have had to go for doctors and medicine. The kids do all they can to help out, but at times it's been hard to keep food in their mouths. Maybe you think it's funny that I go off by myself to eat my dinner. Well, I guess I've been a little ashamed, because I don't always have anything between my sandwich. Or like today -- maybe there's only a raw turnip in my pail. But I want you to know that this meat really means a lot to me. Maybe more than to anybody here because tonight my kids," he wiped the moisture from his eyes with the back of his hand, "...tonight my kids will have a really..." He tugged at the string. "We'd been watching Jake so intently we hadn't paid much notice to Mike and Pete. But we all noticed them now, because they both dove at once to try to grab the package. But they were too late. Jake had broken the wrapper and was already surveying his present. He examined each hoof, each ear, and then he held up the tail. It wiggled limply. It should have been so funny, but nobody laughed -- nobody at all. But the hardest part was when Jake looked up and tried to smile." This was where the foreman left the story and the men. He didn't need to say anymore; but it was gratifying to notice that as each man ate his lunch that day, he shared part with Bill Andrews and one fellow even offered him his shirt. - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 15:12:10 EDT From: Subject: (lds-yw) My Value Files Hi You guys, My name is Jenny Rose from New Jersey. I have been on the list forever, but have been very quite lately, I was out of town for 2 weeks during April & May and when I came back I had THOUSANDS of Emails, No Kidding. I have almost gotten caught up on them (and everything else that piled up while I was gone.) so today I sent my files on Knowledge, Integrity, Divine Nature and Good Works. A few months ago I had sent Choice & Accountability, Individual Worth, 1998 Theme Ideas, an YW Activity ideas. (if you are new and want these let me know:)) I still have files on Faith, We will Stand as Witnesses, Prepare to Make and Keep Sacred Covenants, Exaltation. ect....ect...... are you guys interested in any of these?? I don't want to clog up your mailboxes, but if you are interested I will clean them up and send them See Ya Jenny from Jersey - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 15:40:45 EDT From: rsburton@juno.com (Richard and Susan) Subject: Re: (lds-yw) double postings Yes, Liz,---I'm getting doubles and triples of messages as well. Susan in Palmdale, CA On Wed, 27 May 1998 08:54:33 -0600 "The Roberts" writes: >Is anyone else getting double postings sent to them? Yesterday and >today I >even have some that are sent twice or three times. Is this a problem >to >the list? What can be done except just deleting copies? >Liz > >- > To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" > with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. > For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send > "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. > _____________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 15:40:45 EDT From: rsburton@juno.com (Richard and Susan) Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Seeking advice from stake leaders! Yes we do have problems with our YW leaving on activity night. When their parents come for them, we mention that we missed their daughter and let them know that we will not chase them down or babysit for that matter. If they want to come join us and participate-we'd love to have them. We had a bread making night in which two girls left but came back in time to look like they had been there all night when parents came to get them. We simply told them that their daughters dont have a loaf of bread to take home because they just showed up for class. We are not telling on them, we are simply telling the parents that we are not withholding things from their daughters to be mean, but those who do the class get the benefit. My husband teaches seminary and he is the same way--WE DON'T BABYSIT!!! There's an extra charge for that!! ha ha. We'd like them to join the class and want to be there rather than make us all miserable with their complaining and wishing they weren't there. Therefore, they are to make up their own mind with the knowledge that their parents will be told of their disappearing act during our activity. The consequence will be their lose of knowledge, fun and spiritual growth. Sounds harsh, but these girls parents don't back us at all. They feel the girls should be able to go into the bathroom and talk--"it's a part of being a good friend"-unfortunately, that parent also says her daughter doesn';'t have a testimony. Go figure! On Wed, 27 May 1998 02:21:05 EDT writes: >In a message dated 98-05-26 20:22:05 EDT, you write: > ><< We have had to work on reverence with our girls along with > keeping them in yw on Thursdays >> > >I was wondering from this comment if you are having a hard time with >your >girls coming to YW on activity night, but then not staying in the >activity? >We are having that problem with our girls right now. We usually have >a good >turnout at our activites, but it seems most of the girls seem to find >some >reason to leave the activity and just hang around the church building. > We are >not sure how to handle this problem. You can't really force them to >stay in >the activity (usually they claim they need to use the bathroom, get a >drink, >etc.) Sometimes they don't say anything, just leave. I don't >remember ever >having or using the option of leaving YW activities when I was one of >the >girls (could be my memory is a little foggy!) If any of you have >ideas of how >to deal with this problem, I would love to hear them. > >Thanks, >Lisa in Oregon > >- > To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" > with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. > For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send > "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. > _____________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 13:52:38 -0700 From: "June Guymon" Subject: (lds-yw) Adopt a Grandma I just wanted to tell about a very successful activity that we just had. It was an "Adopt a Grandma" Activity. We got a list of women in the ward from the bishop for our YW to adopt. Then we met and made Easter baskets with a letter in an egg for each "grandma". (You could do almost anything depending on the time of year that you choose to do this.) Then for the next 6 weeks the girls were on their own. They each did nice little things for their "Grandmas". Then we had a "Grandma" Party where we let them tell about themselves and played Bingo. We kept the cost down by having the girls bring the prizes - canned fruit or vegetables, packages of cake mix, etc. It was great fun. June in Logan - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 13:56:36 -0600 From: "Charmaine L. Peck" Subject: Re: (lds-yw) I am afraid to ask this... We don't do pranks at camp, HOWEVER, one ward did this and it was pretty hilarious... Their color was orange that year and their theme had something to do with pirates and treasure. Their ward's camp was right in the middle of the campground and a common "walk through" for all of the other people there. They got tired of people always plodding through their camp, so... If anyone walked through their camp that was not wearing their color, ORANGE, they "kidnapped" them, tied them to a tree (gently) and you got completely soaked from water balloons, or buckets of water, whatever. It was hilarious. Of course, I was caught unaware and was drenched. Charee Peck, Stake YW Pres, SSL Stake serryp@burgoyne.com - -----Original Message----- From: Judy L. Pickett To: lds-yw@lists.xmission.com Date: Wednesday, May 27, 1998 12:11 PM Subject: Re: (lds-yw) I am afraid to ask this... >I don't know about the list but here are a few ideas that worked great >for us:) >Ice bags in beds. >Plastic snakes, spiders etc in beds >Corn Flakes in sleeping bags >Rocks (weights) in back packs >"Kidnap" all their girls while they are in the latrine >Toilet paper the inside of the tent >Kidnap the leader, tie them to the flag pole, make them sing for their >freedom > >On Sat, 23 May 1998 23:36:15 -0600 "Julie Johansen" > writes: >>I would love it if you would share your list of fun, harmless pranks >>you >>receive to play on the other leaders. Our camp is coming up and us >>leaders >>have as much fun with each other as the girls do. >>Thanks! >>Julie in Payson, Utah >> >>---------- >>> From: RootsByRitz@webtv.net >>> To: lds-yw@lists.xmission.com >>> Subject: (lds-yw) I am afraid to ask this... >>> Date: Saturday, May 23, 1998 11:10 PM >>> >>> At our last leadership meeting for camp we agreed to let the pranks >>> continue this year. I read the comments about pranks a few weeks >>ago >>> and shared many of them in our meeting. Quite frankly, some of what >>you >>> all shared waddown right scary! >>> >>> We want to have fun and protect at the same time so we set some >>strict >>> rules and I personally told the girls in my ward that if they broke >>any >>> prank rule I would stop what I whatever I was doing and drive them >>home >>> right then and there. No packing, no appeals, just going home. >>They >>> all agreed that the journal reading and mean pranks were stupid and >>they >>> wanted no part of that (thank goodness). >>> >>> Okay here is the part I need help with. The stake leadership has >>> declared a prank war on all the ward leadership. HELP! I refuse >>to be >>> the victim of fun without having a few of my own, and can hardly >>> remember the ones I use so long ago. Would the sisters with >>all >>> the good ideas please privately email me and give me some >>protection! >>> I have already been told that the Stake President is the king of >>water >>> fights and I refuse to be drowned with out at least one chance! >>> >>> For those of you who have forbidden pranks, I understand and hope >>this >>> post will not offend you. I really do want to protect my girls and >>hurt >>> my friends! >>> Robin >>> >>> - >>> To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" >>> with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. >>> For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages >>send >>> "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. >> >>- >> To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" >> with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. >> For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send >> "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. >> > >_____________________________________________________________________ >You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. >Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com >Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] > >- > To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" > with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. > For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send > "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. > - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 16:19:49 EDT From: Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Seeking advice from stake leaders! We have had problems with girls wandering away from the activity in the past, there are lots of places to wander to in a church building. However, we recently have been moved out of our building because it is being renovated and we (mind you we have a pretty small young womens, it is a great turn out when we have 10 girls total) have begun having activities in our homes. That took care of the wandering problem- there isn't any place for them to go. If our group remains small we may continue to have many of the activities in our homes, the girsl really like it- its kind of nice to be in a home instead of in a big building. Gayle B - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 13:23:22 -0700 From: Brandon & Shiela Lee Subject: Re: (lds-yw) Adopt a Grandma Why can I NEVER think of activities like this. Simple enough, yet I am sure it made some grandma's fee very very special. Thank you so much for sharing this idea. I think this is something every ward in the world could do. Shiela June Guymon wrote: > I just wanted to tell about a very successful activity that we just > had. It was an "Adopt a Grandma" Activity. We got a list of women > in the ward from the bishop for our YW to adopt. Then we met and > made Easter baskets with a letter in an egg for each "grandma". (You > could do almost anything depending on the time of year that you > choose to do this.) Then for the next 6 weeks the girls were on > their own. They each did nice little things for their "Grandmas". > Then we had a "Grandma" Party where we let them tell about themselves > and played Bingo. We kept the cost down by having the girls bring > the prizes - canned fruit or vegetables, packages of cake mix, etc. > It was great fun. > > June in Logan > > - > To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" > with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. > For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send > "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 15:45:08 -0500 From: Ken and Michelle Duker Subject: (lds-yw) Files - ------ =_NextPart_000_01BD8987.22A3EAC0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable Jenny Rose, You and Kathy in CA are absolute angels. Yes, I would be very = interested in your files you previously posted (I have only been on list = for a few weeks) and I would be very interested in the others, too, if = you get time to put them on. Thanks a million for what you have already = done! 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For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 16:56:27 EDT From: Subject: (lds-yw) Father's Day Ideas We are making truffles at our activity night the Wed. before Father's Day and will give them out on Father's Day. I don't know how to make them, someone from Relief Society is going to come and teach the girls. She said they are easy, no cooking. Ginger in Santa Rosa - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 14:05:11 -0700 From: Steve Leishman Subject: Re: (lds-yw) My Value Files I would like all of the above!!!!!!At 03:12 PM 5/27/98 EDT, you wrote: >Hi You guys, >My name is Jenny Rose from New Jersey. I have been on the list forever, but >have been very quite lately, I was out of town for 2 weeks during April & May >and when I came back I had THOUSANDS of Emails, No Kidding. I have almost >gotten caught up on them (and everything else that piled up while I was gone.) >so today I sent my files on Knowledge, Integrity, Divine Nature and Good >Works. > >A few months ago I had sent Choice & Accountability, Individual Worth, 1998 >Theme Ideas, an YW Activity ideas. (if you are new and want these let me >know:)) > >I still have files on Faith, We will Stand as Witnesses, Prepare to Make and >Keep Sacred Covenants, Exaltation. ect....ect...... are you guys interested >in any of these?? I don't want to clog up your mailboxes, but if you are >interested I will clean them up and send them >See Ya >Jenny from Jersey > >- > To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" > with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. > For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send > "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. > > - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 14:05:12 -0700 From: Steve Leishman Subject: (lds-yw) ? ON YW I have a situation and needed some insights. To make a long story short. One of our yw went out of town to visit a friend in college with her boyfriend. She didn't tell her mom that he was going with. They spent the night at the friends house. The house has nine - ten college age girls living there, most LDS. The friend offered the yw to sleep in her room and the ym in the living room. However, they both, the yw and ym, slept together in the living room. My question. Do I need to talk with this yw? Even if nothing happened, I feel she shouldn't have put herself in this situation. I hope this is okay to put a ? like this on the list. I truly love this yw and want to do what is best. Thank you, - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 15:20:01 -0600 From: "The Roberts" Subject: Re: (lds-yw) ? ON YW I think this is her parents responsibility. They should know. You can do a lesson covering the issue of safety and morals and honesty but the overall responsibility comes from her parents. If you have a really good relationship with her you might be able to say something. Liz - ---------- > From: Steve Leishman > To: lds-yw@xmission.com > Subject: (lds-yw) ? ON YW > Date: Wednesday, May 27, 1998 3:05 PM > > I have a situation and needed some insights. To make a long story short. > One of our yw went out of town to visit a friend in college with her > boyfriend. She didn't tell her mom that he was going with. They spent the > night at the friends house. The house has nine - ten college age girls > living there, most LDS. The friend offered the yw to sleep in her room and > the ym in the living room. However, they both, the yw and ym, slept > together in the living room. My question. Do I need to talk with this yw? > Even if nothing happened, I feel she shouldn't have put herself in this > situation. I hope this is okay to put a ? like this on the list. I truly > love this yw and want to do what is best. > > Thank you, > > > - > To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" > with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. > For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send > "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 27 May 1998 17:17:10 EDT From: Subject: (lds-yw) Knowledge (My File 4 of 4 Part A) This is part 4 of 4 for Knowledge came as an attachment to some of you who cant get attachments, so I am sending it in two parts. If you got it ok the first time... then you can delete this part A and part B The whole thing (parts a & b) are a talk by Sister Beckham. Transitions JANETTE HALES BECKHAM Janette Hales Beckham is the Young Women general president of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. This devotional address was given on 12 November 1996 in the Marriott Center. ©1996 by Brigham Young University. All rights reserved. Complete volumes of Speeches are available wherever LDS books are sold. For further information write: How I love to come to BYU. I like the crunch of autumn leaves and the Y on the mountain. (I really liked the football game on Saturday.) But most of all, I like seeing you--book bags, bikes, comfortable shoes, and long shorts. I love and admire the good things you are doing. When I look in your faces, it makes me wish that this visit could take place in my kitchen. I'd like to begin my message today with a Calvin and Hobbes cartoon by Bill Watterson. Calvin is in the front of a wagon with Hobbes hanging on in the rear. Calvin says, "I thrive on change." Hobbes replies, "You?! You threw a fit this morning because your mom put less jelly on your toast than yesterday!" Then Calvin says, "I thrive on making other people change." Most of us like the "idea" of change. I believe that comes from our growth instinct. But in reality, change can cause some discomfort. Throughout our lives, I believe, we will be balancing our need for change--learning and growth--with our other important needs for safety, permanence, and security. Today I am going to talk about dealing with change in our lives. Some of you are going through transitions right now that are requiring you to change and causing you some discomfort. Because I spend a good deal of time with young people, I have become aware that a time of change can be a time of increased stress and vulnerability. From my vantage point, I've started to see life as a long series of transitions--adjustments that require us to change. Learning to make healthy transitions is a major factor not only in our learning and growth but in our ability to be successful and happy. Your transition to greater independence didn't begin when you left home for college. It began when you entered the terrible twos, but back then your parents did most of the changing. You were thriving on making other people change. When the second child is born into a family, the first is displaced and must make some adjustments. When my own children were all in school, we added to our family a Hopi Native American daughter. She shared a room with my youngest daughter, Mary, who was nearly 15. I observed: "No wonder Mary is so well adjusted. She never had to adjust before." I am aware of the many adjustments you are making. Listening to college students has taught me that many of your major transitions come in three categories we could call the three M's: moves, missions, and marriage. Some transitions are of your own choosing. Some are not, but each requires some change and adjustment. One student reported that his most difficult experience in life was getting married--even though he isn't married yet. Just the thought of getting married, the very possibility, was stressful--scary because of lack of money to take care of a family and, besides, he hates weddings. I had one daughter who hated wedding receptions. I promised she could change into a sweatshirt and jeans at 9:00 p.m. on the night of her wedding reception even if all the guests hadn't yet gone through the line. That was enough security to convince her to go through with her marriage! There is a key in that suggestion. You can build in a feeling of security during change by adding something comfortable and familiar. In this case, for Jane, it was a friendly sweatshirt and jeans. A young child finds security from a favorite blanket or toy when away from home. I've seen a few teddy bears stacked on the luggage at the MTC. I know a woman whose family success had allowed them to build a new and lovely home for their large family. They decided to give away all of their much-used and older furnishings and start again with everything new. How wonderful! we say. No, it wasn't. She said she would never do that again. The children felt no permanence or attachment to the new things. Some old broken-in "treasures," a sagging sofa or familiar pictures, may have helped as they adjusted to new friends, new neighbors, and new schools. I'm sure you have found that placing some photos, a journal, even a pillow from home can give you a feeling of connection, a sense of heritage and belonging. Moving is always a major transition, and one most of you are experiencing. You must leave the familiar for the unfamiliar. You leave behind also a bit of your identity and have to make a new place for yourself. One student said: I felt so utterly alone and friendless when I came to BYU. I wanted to show my independence and chose to move into a dorm with no one I knew. Suddenly, I wasn't a cocky high school senior. I was a freshman at a large university. I felt so small. A lot of tearful prayers brought me close to my Heavenly Father. I found out that he knew me [here] the same way he had known me in my home. . . . I began to sit by people who were sitting by themselves, striking up conversations about goals. I began to have many friends. Her friends became her support, and she added, "Heavenly Father helped me find them." Prayer, which strengthened her relationship with Heavenly Father, gave permanence and security in a time of change. My counselor in the Young Women presidency, Bonnie D. Parkin, related the experience she had when she went away to college. She has given me permission to share her story. Sister Parkin said: I remember in 1959 leaving my home in Herriman, Utah, to attend school at Utah State University. I hadn't been there many days when I became so homesick I was physically ill, and I feared my heart was going to break. [Some of you may know what that feels like.] Worse, I was at the same university that my brother and sister were attending, and yet all I wanted to do was go back to the safety of home, back to the gruff but tender care of my dad, back to the gentle arms of my mother in her warm kitchen. Finally, [the adjustment] was too great, and I found a ride to Herriman. I felt desperately alone as I hugged the passenger door as we were driving past our small school and old ward house. Finally I saw the sign for Dansie's Place--the little store my parents ran on the side of the road. I was home. My parents were, of course, surprised to see me on their doorstep. I was just relieved to see them. I sat with my dad, who was in his big brown leather chair, and sobbed, recounting my heartaches and isolation so many miles away. My dad was a farmer, a tough but tender man. Having served a mission in the depression, he knew something about hardships. . . . He could have rushed to counsel me or called me weak, yet he just listened and held me and finally said, "You don't have to go back if you don't want to." Now, as a parent, I know in his heart he was hoping that I would go back--but he was not going to berate me or force me. He was going to let me decide. Then Sister Parkin said: I'm sure that at some time long past our Father sat with us in a big celestial chair and said, "You don't have to go if you don't want to." But I know he wanted us to go. . . . We chose to leave him. Knowing I could choose somehow freed me to decide I could return to school. I recognized that the pain and growing would surely continue in many forms, but I also recognized that miles away, in a big leather chair, sat my father, thinking of me, hoping the highest for me, simply loving me. A strong and capable person learns to make difficult choices in times of transition. I have learned from experience and from listening to you how important it is to have someone to talk to when we are adjusting to change. Sometimes when we are trying to help others who are struggling, it's easy to make the mistake of giving too much advice. Heavenly Father gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. He wants us to listen twice as much as we talk. Understanding takes listening. As one student said, "My parents and family had a tendency to do a lot of talking in order to make me feel better, but what I really wanted was just someone to listen and show love." How many of you are returned missionaries? In a report of Campus Education Week, BYU professor Garth Hanson talked about the vulnerability of a missionary as he or she returns from a full-time mission. That is a major transition. Many of you are having that experience. He gave some suggestions to missionaries that could be helpful to all of us in times of change. He suggested that each person needs a board of directors. You need people you trust to whom you can turn for advice. These mentors may include parents, a bishop, someone in your chosen field, a teacher, a friend, or other returned missionaries. Make a conscious effort to have a group of resource people with whom you feel secure. I think of my husband as I recall his service as a mission president in Canada. He said he has since learned that his most valuable service as a mission president was in the 10 or 15 years after his mission was completed. In these important years, returning missionaries--young men and young women--need a mentor who knows them, loves them, and understands them. These are the years that you are getting yourselves established in your lives with education, choice of mates, and the important choices of work and family. One ability that can help any of us in a time of transition is the ability to build a support system. Look for credible mentors who not only listen and understand but can also enlarge your perspective. Sometimes you need someone who can help you consider new options. Coming home from a mission may involve some grieving not unlike losing a loved one. Loss of relationships--companions, missionaries, and mission leaders--is a change; but the loss of relationships with investigators and members in a distant land may feel like a more permanent loss. Grieving involves some pain. Talk about it. Write about it. Consider our Heavenly Father's perspective. Perhaps he may be thinking, "How wonderful that you have learned to care so much for others who were different from you. This will help you be a more caring person in all of your future experiences." Your growth will continue, but growth sometimes feels like a loss! Professor Hanson, in speaking of missionaries, suggested that when you get home you continue the mission rules. (I can hear your first reaction: "No way.") Good habits can become a part of ourselves that give a feeling of permanence and security no matter where we are. May I give the example of a prominent Church and community leader, a successful businessman? As I give this man's experience, you may want to think of your own life and decide if there are any changes you want to make. A transition is a great time to choose to make positive changes. You can let go of some bad habits and hang on to the good ones. A transition does more than take us from one location to another. It can take us from one behavior to another. The person in my example said he had a poor tradition for education. He gained his identity when he was young from goofing off and entertaining his friends. He said he missed many of the fundamentals of education, and as he went to junior high and high school, he formed a habit of "cram and survive." There was always tremendous stress for him as he tried to move along with his friends in an academic setting. There were beginning to be great deficits in his early preparation. After high school this young man decided to go on a mission. He had a mission president who helped him develop his potential. He taught him about discipline and order. It gave him a fresh start. As he followed the mission rules and worked hard, he saw results. The transition after his mission to university life was a difficult one. He felt as if he were falling back into a hole. He didn't want to lose what he had gained, so he decided to make a plan and make rules for himself. As he made the transition to a university life, he made the following four commitments: First, he would never go to class unprepared. Second, he would review, type, or rewrite notes after each class and before the next class. Third, he would study with someone smarter than himself. He found a real advantage in study groups because he found it kept him focused on class preparation. It helped him anticipate tests and rehearse possible questions and answers. It also helped him enlarge his own point of view. Fourth was his commitment to consult his professor if he felt he was struggling. He would offer to repeat assignments or do extra assignments until he mastered the fundamentals. This young man said he was amazed at how quickly he became a top student. Learning from mission rules, he learned to set standards for himself that carried him not only through a successful student life in the university but through a very successful and productive life in the Church and community thereafter. - - To unsubscribe to lds-yw, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe lds-yw" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message. ------------------------------ End of lds-yw-digest V1 #79 *************************** - To unsubscribe to $LIST, send an email to "majordomo@xmission.com" with "unsubscribe $LIST" in the body of the message. For information on digests or retrieving files and old messages send "help" to the same address. Do not use quotes in your message.